Can I go down on you discreetly

Hey I’m 28, handsome white male, 6′2 athletic build. Here’s the thing, I’ve been in a relationship for awhile now, things have dulled sexually. I love to give oral sex to a women, it’s my thing. My gf hasn’t let me go down on her in at least a year and I’d like to get [...]
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Gertrude:
I don't expect anything to change by telling him I love.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
So if he is uncomfortable with that level of emotion on my end...he could bow out...but at the same time...yes..I'm in love with him...but I also love him as a friend and am afraid of losing him if I tell him.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
Part of me wanta to tell him...not because I expect him to answer in kind (honestly I have no idea if his feelings are that deep, and I am okay if they are not)...but I feel like he has a right to know just how deep I am in it.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
We want to stay married to our spouses.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
We have no notions of this going anywhere further.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
But neither one of use wants to meet...or take it physical.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
We admit we are having an emotional affair.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
We have both admitted to having feelings for each other.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
Honestly talking with him has SAVED my marriage.
(30 November 2016)

Gertrude:
We encourage each other to be better spouses.
(30 November 2016)